The sacred union between the divine masculine and the divine feminine. Something that has become so clear to me after having spent the last couple of years healing my depression and doing the inner work to deprogram my mind of all the generational and societal conditioning we go through since we are children is that the deeper you go the more I land in my feminine energy, being guided by my intuition in all decisions I make.
We are currently living in a society that pushes women in to their masculine energy through the corporate world and the patriarchy men have created, created by men, for men. A system that make women more masculine while also loosing touch with their divine feminine energy and intuition. We are all a mix of the feminine and masculine energy. Feminine energy is associated with the left side of the body and the right hemisphere of the brain. This side is linked to receiving, intuition and emotional qualities, while the right side of the body and the left hemisphere of the brain is associated with masculine energy.
Women report suffering from anxiety, depression and burn out more than ever. Feeling pressure to excel in the corporate world while doing most of the emotional work in their romantic relationship, becoming pregnant, going through the biggest hormonal and spiritual experience of her life (childbirth) to then be stressed to come back to work at the same time as she does most of the default parenting and doing 70% more of the domestic labor than the man. Burning out in both ends. When a woman has been too long in her masculine energy her body operates from a state of survival mode, she can never fully relax in to her feminine energy.
When we were children we were sold the fairy tale dream that we would find a prince charming that would be a provider and protector and live happily ever after. Now we have arrived in a society where men want to be a princess, be taken care of emotionally, financially (through 50/50), served in the home, doing the bare minimum of the emotional work in the relationship while the women are supposed to carry and raise his children while still maintaining a career. Women are waking up to this scam and by 2030 over 50% of women between the age of 25-44 will be single and choose to be childfree and not marrying. And why is that?
Plain and simple. Women have evolved, we develop both our inner skills and outer skills. We heal our childhood wounds and grow on a emotional and spiritual level. But men? Most of them have stagnated in their evolution, remaining the same, because the system has always served them so they never had to change. They still operate with their unresolved generational and childhood wounds (either a father or mother wound). They have unresolved trauma left in their energetic system blocking them from forming a healthy emotional relationship with their own masculine energy as well as women. Making them look for women to ‘mother’ them in their life, a role that many women carry in today’s relationship and it’s adding to the emotional and mental load. This is not what a sacred union between the divine masculine & divine feminine is supposed to be like.
So many men think feminists hate men but we actually love men, healthy masculine men that is. But so many men are so set in their ways and feel entitled to having “a wife and a couple of kids”, but this is nature, if you don’t evolve, natural selection will get you and the male ego have a hard time accepting this, calling it a ”lonely male epedemic”. Just evolve, go to therapy, stop making excuses for having the emotional intelligence and empathy of a door knob. Women are fed up. We expect more and are done settling for less. Because for the first time in history we have the opportunity and freedom to do so, the freedom to choose and we rather choose our peace than having to raise a man child.
It becomes so crystal clear when you have done the inner work, you are no longer attracted to the bare minimum (falling in love with the potential, not reality), feminine men (most men in today’s day and age are in their feminine energy, not their healthy masculine energy). I sense it straight away now through the energy he is emitting. Before I went on my healing journey I was operating from a place of childhood wounds and anxious attachment style but as I have healed these parts of me my outlook on life and relationships are completely different. I can only accept healthy masculine energy in my life, that’s where my feminine energy flourishes and thrives and it’s the only energy I find attractive.
That’s why it’s so incredible important that both partners do the inner work in a relationship. Otherwise one partner stay on the same level of wounding and the other partner develops and starts operating from a new level of consciousness and they are now no longer in alignment. You attract a partner with similar childhood wounds as yourself, then you are supposed to grow and develop in the relationship but many people get stuck in the toxic dynamics, feeling a sort of unconscious comfort to repeat the same kind of patterns they went through in their childhood.
My biggest recommendation to all of you that are looking to build a healthy relationship, focus on your inner healing, this way you will attract a partner based on your new frequency. You will no longer attract or be attracted to the man or woman which patterns are a repetition of your childhood wounds and attachment style. By doing the inner work you break generational cycles which is the most beautiful gift you can ever give yourself, your ancestors, your partner and your future children.
Much love/Malin
